Never regret anything in life, because at one time it was exactly what you wanted.
It’s been a big couple of weeks since I last wrote, and I’ve been thinking about it a lot.
I’ve just settled into a new (albeit temporary) home, living with my parents, in a small country town in Victoria, Australia. As I adjust to a new environment, MUCH colder temperatures, and a new “routine”, I am happy to say that my urge to write for all of you continues to burn hot and fierce.
So, what’ been happening?
To summarise: I quit my job, moved across the country, and met an amazing girl.
Let me elaborate.
July 18 was the final day at my desk job. It’s been a work in progress for over 2 years now, and I’m glad to say that I’m well into a transition – a transition to a happier, and a whole new me. I knew from the second year of my four year university degree, that my choice of occupation (Mechanical Engineering) was ‘not my cup of tea’. I’ve tried many avenues, and have decided that, for the moment, we are not a match meant to be.
Many people ask my “why?”, to which I respond “why not?”. Some people see my situation as a lost opportunity – leaving a stable, well paying career – whereas I see many, many opportunities to be gained. Besides, I have the safety net of a degree, so now it’s time to be adventurous, be daring, and begin my journey according to my own terms.
After 6 years searching with an outdated map, it’s time to go shopping….
I quit my job, packed my bags, shoved life into my tiny VW Polo, and headed south towards new opportunity, inspiring friends, and a foreign land to explore. I’ve been in my element – totally immersed and enjoying the sites, sounds, and simplicity of life on the road. As the powers that be would have it, I met an amazing girl along the way. Another exciting bend in the road awaiting the navigational prowess of this race-car driver! It’s been a blast!
It’s not all been smooth sailing though. It’s been a tough mental battle to make it this far, as there are no shortage of people questioning my motives. The ensuing negative, damaging self-talk is therefore less than productive towards my overall desire to be free and search for my true calling.
In comes this post.
Fast forward to now. My previous journey has ended, and a new one has begun. It didn’t happen naturally. Oh no. It’s not like Santa came and just handed me money, freedom, and a gold plated chocolate egg to make me feel good. I attribute my recent actions to certain qualities that I’ve developed and have been nurturing over the past 2 years. It’s taken a lot of work, and I’m sure it’ll take lots of work for you too (should you decide to action a life-changing decision of your own).
That said, I believe the first step is awareness.
I’ve made some pretty radical changes, and I want to help you do it too. I was able to do it because I recognised the power of the following 3 qualities in myself and my surroundings. I’m confident that if you recognise them, you’ll be well on your way to some awesome life-changing adventure too.
3 qualities to action life-changing decisions
Want to implement some life-changing decisions for yourself? I recommend starting with the following 3 qualities. They’ll naturally progress as you grow, so it’s a great place to start planting your seeds.
1. The right support
I’ve talked about it many times before, and I’ll say it again.
You’ve gotta select the right people to support you!
Remember this quote?
You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
In no way is this more important than when it comes to fulfilling your dreams, desires, and goals of change.
If you’ve ever tried it, you’ll know what I mean when I say it’s hard to go at it alone. The world is a big, scary place when confronted as one.
As a wise proverb states, a problem shared is a problem halved.
If you’re stuck and don’t have any inspiration, make this your number one priority. Get out there, do what you love to do, and connect with like-minded people. Your spirit, enthusiasm, and progress towards your goals will accelerate beyond imagination!
2. You just gotta have faith
George Michael said it right. Sometimes, you’ve gotta have faith.
Some people believe in fate, some in coincidence, some in destiny. None are incorrect. All have their place in this world as they ‘work’ for different people.
Above all of these, I’m certain that to do better, you need to go further.
To succeed, you must learn to nurture the quality and the belief of faith in yourself.
Faith – confidence or trust in a person, thing, deity, view, or in the doctrines or teachings of a religion. It can also be defined as belief that is not based on proof, and is often used as a synonym for hope, trust, or belief.~Wikipedia
You don’t need to believe in a ‘higher power’ for miracles to happen. There are miracles awaiting your discovery inside of you!
When times get tough and what you do seems silly, unrealistic, or impossible, these are the times to call on your quality of faith to inspire you. Remind yourself that all the ‘miracles’ of the past (think electricity, man landing on the moon, the invention of the modern computer for example) were created by people just like you. The thing is, they had mastered an important ability.
Successful people have a mastered ability to have faith in their actions, their judgement, and in what they stand for.
3. All talk and no action won’t get you far. Get motivated
There is never a result without decisive action!
I’m sure you’ll have seen it before. There’s no shortage of people that sit and complain about the state of ‘X’ or the annoyance of person ‘Y’, and that’s as far as they get…
Complain, foster resentment and anger, and complain even more.
Talk with no action is likely to lead to a cycle of doubt, a loss of faith, and the development of subsequent negative though patterns which, as I’ve discussed before in a previous post, are damaging to your ability to be better.
Sure I get it, action is scary.
What’s scarier though – Acting with the possibility of success, or stalling with a guarantee of failure?
It’s up to you. Take action, the rest will follow.
There you have it. It’s a snippet of how I arrived to writing this post, and what it took for my ship to sail this far. It’s a big, long winded journey, and one I am excited to be sailing under the power of my own sail.
Have you got an idea to change life and don’t know how to start? I suggest you start with these important qualities discussed in this post that will give you strength and guidance on your journey.
- Selection of the right support network,
- Faith in your abilities, and
- Action on your plans.
I’ve found them most helpful on my journey, and I hope they prove helpful to you too.